Tuesday, July 22, 2025

YOU ALREADY HAVE WHAT IT TAKES! START, EVEN IF YOU’RE AFRAID

 


There’s something powerful about pausing long enough to recognize this one truth: you already have what it takes.

So many of us spend our lives waiting. Waiting for the right time, the right opportunity, the right sign. We hesitate. We tell ourselves that once the fear goes away, we’ll finally move. But fear isn’t a stop sign; it’s a natural part of stepping into something bigger than where we are now.

That’s why I believe this: sometimes, the best thing you can do is do it afraid.

Fear doesn't always disappear before action. Sometimes, it fades because of action. Think of all the things you've already survived, all the challenges you've handled, all the moments you didn’t think you could get through, yet here you are. You didn’t wait for bravery to arrive fully formed. You moved anyway. And that’s exactly how you grow.

Life isn’t about arriving. We often imagine there's some final destination when we’ve made it, when things feel easier, when we’re finally recognized. But that’s not how life works. Life is about chasing what sets your heart on fire. It’s about pursuing what matters, not reaching a moment where everything is suddenly perfect. The beauty is in the journey, not the arrival.

And let’s talk about leverage because we all have it. Sometimes we downplay our gifts or assume that what we have isn’t enough. However, the truth is that you already possess many tools. The network you’ve built, the skills you’ve developed, the small wins you’ve collected; those are your leverage. You don’t have to wait for something bigger to begin. You just have to use what’s already in your hand.

Look around. The problems you notice in the world aren’t random. They’re signals. You’re not meant just to observe them; you’re equipped to be the solution. Whether it's a lack of something in your community, a gap in your industry, or a voice that needs to be heard, your noticing it means you’re meant to do something about it.

So often, the thing holding us back isn’t a lack of talent, time, or opportunity. It’s comfort. We stay stuck in the familiar, not because we love it but because it’s safe. But comfort is not where growth lives. The reason you're not moving forward might be because you're still too comfortable where you are.

Purpose demands discomfort. It asks you to leave behind what’s predictable in exchange for what’s possible.

It’s important to have something in your life. Something that fills your time and gives you a reason to wake up… That’s the purpose. Purpose doesn’t always have to be loud or glamorous. Sometimes, it’s just something that grounds you. Something that gives meaning to your hours. A mission. A dream. A project. A role you play in someone’s life.

If you can find that “something,” protect it. Nurture it. It doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to be yours.

So, here’s your reminder today:
Stop waiting. Stop second-guessing. Stop assuming someone else is more qualified, more ready, more deserving.

You already have what it takes.
Move, even if you’re afraid.
Chase, even if the end isn’t clear.
Use what you’ve got.
Be the solution.
And don’t settle in comfort if you know you were made for more.

Your next chapter isn’t waiting for perfection.
It’s waiting for you to begin.

 

Tuesday, July 15, 2025

STOP HOLDING ON TO POTENTIAL, START CHOOSING REALITY!

 


How Do You Make It Work?

I’ve been sitting with this question lately: How do you make it work? Life, dreams, relationships, money, goals, all of it. It’s a question that creeps in quietly, especially when you’re doing all the things, showing up, pushing through, even healing and growing, and yet somehow… things still don’t seem to work.

I’m learning that sometimes, it doesn’t work because it doesn’t work. Not because you're not trying hard enough. Not because you're not smart or gifted or worthy. Simply because life doesn't always align just because you want it to, and that’s a hard pill to swallow. Especially when you’re someone who sees potential everywhere. You see it in people, in yourself, in projects, in ideas that spark at 2 a.m. The “what it could be if only…” mindset is so easy to slip into. But sometimes “if only” never comes. And you can end up wasting so much energy trying to force things to fit that were never designed to align in the first place.

Seeing Potential vs. Setting Expectations

One thing I’ve had to unpack is how my view of others’ potential has sometimes been more about my own expectations, expectations rooted in what I would do if I had what they had.

“If I had that platform, I’d use it to…”
“If I had that kind of partner, I wouldn’t take them for granted.”
“If I had that opportunity, I’d never let it go.”

But the truth is, that’s not their story, it’s mine projected onto them. And it’s not fair. We all carry different weights, different fears, and different wounds. What seems like an obvious step to you might be a terrifying leap to someone else. And even when you see someone “wasting” their opportunity, it’s still their path to walk.

That realization can be grounding. It humbles you. It brings you back to yourself.

Love, Potential, and Letting Go

This idea of potential also spills over into relationships. Romantic friendships, even family dynamics. How often have we loved someone for their potential, not for who they truly are in the present moment?

You think, If only they healed… if only they grew in this way… if only they just saw themselves the way I see them. You pour and wait and hope, and in the process, you forget to ask the most important question: Is what they’re giving me right now enough for me, or do I have my own unrealistic expectations of them?

It’s a difficult thing to admit, especially when you’ve invested your heart, your time, your prayers. But holding onto someone or something because of who they could be can weigh you down. You stay too long in situations because you’re in love with a version of a person that doesn’t exist. You delay decisions because you’re waiting for someone else’s breakthrough, not realizing it might be costing you yours.

Choosing better doesn’t mean becoming cold or selfish. It means becoming clearer. It means learning to base your choices not just on what you feel, but on what’s there. What someone is showing you now, not what they might become later. That shift in thinking can completely transform the way you navigate love, friendships, and your own journey.

Using the Mirror: What Can You Do With What You Have?

Here’s where it comes full circle.

The same way we tend to project expectations on others, we also need to learn to reflect those high standards back to ourselves, to stop beating ourselves up, and to measure wisely.

Instead of asking, What would I do if I had what they had? ask:
What can I do with what I have right now?

That’s the true scale of growth.

Not what you’d do if you had more money, more support, more time, more freedom, but what you’re doing with the little you’ve got. That’s where resilience lives. That’s where clarity grows. And that’s how you begin to make things work, not perfectly, not magically, but truthfully.

Start where you are. Don’t glamorize someone else’s chapter over your own. Learn to love people as they are, not as they might become. Let go of expectations that only leave you empty. And when things don’t work, don’t take it as a sign that you’re incapable. It just means that version isn’t you.

And that’s okay.

Keep adjusting. Keep refining. Keep choosing peace over potential.
And most importantly, don’t forget to give yourself the same patience you give everyone else.
You’re allowed to grow at your own pace. You’re allowed to let go.
You’re allowed to start again with what you have, right where you are.

Tuesday, July 8, 2025

“DON’T MINUS YOUR MOMENTS”, A GENTLE REMINDER TO BE PRESENT!

 

So I was having one of those deep, heart-spilling chats with my girl Ciru Ivy... not sure if she’s okay with me using her government name, but here we are. You know those conversations that start off as casual check-ins and somehow dig their way into the soul? Yeah, one of those.

We were talking about life, dreams, goals... the usual spiral of “I haven’t done this” and “I thought by now I’d have achieved that.” I found myself in this space of low-key complaining, feeling like I was falling behind or not doing enough. And in true Ciru fashion, she paused and said something that froze time for a second.

“Don’t minus your moments.”

Whew. Let that sit.

It hit me like a soft slap to the soul. Not harsh... but firm. And so true.

She was reminding me that in my pursuit of big goals and those dreamy milestones, I’ve been overlooking the beauty in what I already have. Things I prayed for. Things I hoped would happen “one day.” And now that they’re here... I’m not even fully appreciating them because my eyes are too fixed on what’s next.

Like spending time with my parents, laughing with my siblings, being able to wake up and do something I love, even in small doses. These things are real. They matter. And they’re happening now. However, I’ve been bypassing them because they don’t appear to be a grand achievement on paper.

How many of us do that?

We keep chasing the next big thing... the next win... the next sign that we're making it. And in that chase, we miss out on the quiet joys that surround us daily. Moments that are soaked in love, comfort, and peace... even if they don’t come with trophies or applause.

Ciru’s words stayed with me. I kept thinking... why do we do that? Why do we keep forgoing what’s important, especially when some of it is literally what we once cried or prayed for?

I think part of it is the world we live in. Everything is fast. Everyone’s posting milestones. Everyone’s “doing big things.” So even on our good days, we feel like we’re behind. We feel like unless it’s something worth broadcasting, it’s not worth celebrating. And that’s a lie... a sneaky one.

There’s something so sacred about practicing in private. About enjoying what you do without the pressure to perform or prove anything. Whether it's creating art, writing, cooking, resting, or simply laughing with your people. That quiet presence... that soft joy... It’s not small. It’s everything.

I'm learning to sit in those moments more. To notice them. To hold them a little tighter and say thank you.

Because the truth is, the present matters. This current version of life… yes, even the messy, unfiltered parts, has meaning. And while I still believe in dreaming and reaching for more, I don't want to be so forward-focused that I miss the grace right here with me.

So now, when I catch myself spiraling into “I haven’t done enough,” I hear Ciru’s voice in my head saying, “Don’t minus your moments.” It reminds me to pause. To breathe. To look around at the people, the spaces, the peace I already have... and to know that I am not behind. I am living.

And that’s enough.

 

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

PROVIDENCE IN EVERY STEP: MY MANIFESTO FOR A MEANINGFUL LIFE

 


As I reflect on the year as we’re halfway through with the guiding word, which has carried me through ‘Providence’, I’m drawn to the manifesto that hangs on my wall, a daily reminder of truths I hold dear. Each morning, I wake up to those printed words, and they ground me. Every new day is a testament to divine providence, a quiet assurance that even amid chaos, there is a greater, beautifully orchestrated plan at work. This blog is a heartfelt reflection of the lessons I’ve embraced, shaped by my creativity, purpose, and faith journey. May these words uplift and guide you, as they inspire me.

1. All things work out together for my good.

This truth is the anchor in my storm. Even when things fall apart or are delayed, I’ve learned to trust that there's a higher reason. Just as Romans 8:28 promises, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him…”, I choose to see setbacks as setups for greater breakthroughs.

2. God knows and that's enough.

Providence begins with surrender. I’ve let go of the need to control every outcome and have found peace in knowing that God sees the entire picture. Isaiah 55:8–9 reminds us that His thoughts are not our thoughts, and His ways are far beyond ours. If He knows, then I don’t have to, and His knowing is enough. That alone is my reassurance that He will see me through.

 3. Never give up!

There were seasons when quitting seemed like the easier option, but I pressed on. Every ‘no’ became a redirection. When you hold on even when it hurts, you align with the promise of Galatians 6:9: “Do not grow weary…for at the proper time we will reap a harvest…”

4. Don’t beat yourself up for things you can't change; instead, focus on fixing what you can.

Regret only wastes today’s energy. I’ve learned to let go of the uncontrollable and take ownership of what I can influence. That is the essence of wisdom and knowing the difference (echoing the Serenity Prayer).

5. Have faith!

Faith fuels everything. From launching new projects to navigating personal losses, believing in what I can’t yet see has been my superpower. Hebrews 11:1 defines faith as “the assurance of things hoped for…” That’s my compass in uncertainty.

6. Believe that you can!

Self-belief isn’t arrogance, it’s acceptance of the gifts you’ve been given. When I doubted, I looked at what I’d already overcome and remembered, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).

7. Missions without a goal are pointless; so always set goals and achieve them.

Wandering without a vision leads to frustration. Every art piece, business venture, or children’s book I’ve completed started with clear goals, and God's provision met me in the planning. Goals give direction and purpose to our passion. They help us measure progress and stay focused when distractions come. Even faith-filled dreams need structure. “Write the vision and make it plain…” (Habakkuk 2:2) reminds us that clarity invites action and movement. When we align our goals with God’s guidance, we don’t just move forward, we move with purpose.

8. Actions speak louder than words.

People remember what you do more than what you say. That’s why I strive to live authentically, letting my life reflect my values. Words are easy, but integrity is action. James 2:17 says, “Faith by itself, if not accompanied by action, is dead.” So I create, love, serve, and give boldly, letting my actions preach when my words are silent.

9. Never be intimidated!

Imposter syndrome once paralyzed me. But I’ve learned that no one else has my exact story, my voice, or my vision. God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called. So now I stand tall, knowing that if He placed the dream in my heart, He will equip me for the journey. “The righteous are as bold as a lion” (Proverbs 28:1), and so am I.

10. Just because you keep failing when you try doesn’t mean you won’t succeed eventually.

Every failure has taught me more than success ever could. It’s not a dead end; it’s a detour that refines, redirects, and strengthens you. Like clay in the Potter’s hands (Jeremiah 18), I am being molded through each setback. Keep showing up. Keep trying. Victory often lies on the other side of perseverance.

11. Always do your best no matter what.

Excellence is a form of worship. It’s not about perfection, but about giving your whole heart. Whether I’m designing, writing, or helping someone publish their dream, I give it my all. Colossians 3:23 reminds me, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord…” That’s how I show honor to providence.

12. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself.

Growth lives just beyond the edge of comfort. From starting my own business to pushing creative boundaries, I’ve learned that every challenge reveals a new strength. God often leads us into places that stretch us, because He knows what we’re capable of, even when we don’t. Challenge is not punishment; it’s preparation.

13. Success is for everyone; we all get a chance at it.

There’s enough room at the table for all of us. I’ve stopped comparing my pace to others and started nurturing my own lane. God’s blessings are not limited; His grace overflows. We each get a chance at success when we walk faithfully in our calling. Be inspired by others, but run your own race.

14. Let go and let God.

Holding on too tightly to outcomes breeds anxiety. I’ve found the most peace in surrender, in loosening my grip and letting God do what only He can. Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Letting go isn’t weakness; it’s wisdom. And it opens the door for providence to move.

15. You are here for a reason!

Your very existence is intentional. Every gift, every challenge, and every season is woven into a greater purpose. I wake up each day reminded that I’m not random. And neither are you. Jeremiah 1:5 speaks this truth: “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you…” You were designed for impact.

16. Work hard every day!

There’s no substitute for consistency. I’ve seen the fruit of disciplined effort in my work, my art, and even my healing. Talent is a gift, but effort is a choice. I’ve chosen to keep showing up, trusting that every small step matters. Because hard work, partnered with grace, is unstoppable.

17. Travel when you can.

Travel has expanded my vision and deepened my gratitude. Each new place reveals something fresh about the world and myself. It reminds me that God’s beauty is vast and endless. From coastal sunrises to savannah sunsets, creation itself whispers His wonder (Psalm 19:1).

18. Worrying about the unknown causes you to stress over nothing.

I’ve wasted too much time worrying about things that never happened. Worry drains today of its strength. Matthew 6:34 gently reminds us, “Do not worry about tomorrow…” When I trust God with what I can’t see, peace floods in. Tomorrow belongs to Him; today is mine to live.

19. Don’t take chance for granted.

Opportunities are seeds… They must be planted when they come. I’ve learned that hesitation can cost more than risk ever could. When God gives a nudge, move. Don’t sit on your dreams. Step out in faith and trust that grace will meet you there.

20. You are your reassurance.

There will be seasons where applause is absent and affirmation is quiet. I’ve had to be my own cheerleader, speaking life over my vision when no one else saw it. You are your own encouragement, your reminder that you are built for this. Speak to yourself with kindness and confidence.

21. Patience is a virtue!

I used to rush everything, but growth taught me to wait well. Patience has become a teacher, shaping humility, trust, and peace in me. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything…” I’m learning that what’s mine will come at the perfect time.

22. Speak it into existence.

There is power in declaration. I’ve watched dreams take shape simply because I dared to speak them aloud. Words shape our world. Proverbs 18:21 says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” So speak with intention, faith, and vision. Your words plant seeds.

23. The good news is that nothing lasts forever; bad times will pass, so cherish the good.

Life moves in seasons. I’ve sat through storms that felt endless, only to see the sun rise again. Pain is temporary, and joy is fleeting too, so I’ve learned to embrace both. Capture the good. Soak it in. Let it remind you, especially in the hard days, that light always returns.

24. Pray without ceasing!

Prayer is my lifeline. It’s where I breathe when I’m overwhelmed and where I anchor when I’m drifting. It’s not about perfect words; it’s about honest ones. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “Pray continually.” For me, that looks like whispered thanks, silent pleas, and steady conversation with God all day long.

25. When you give, give without expecting anything back.

True generosity comes from the heart, not the hope of a return. Whether I’m giving my time, ideas, or resources, I’ve seen that giving without strings always brings a deeper kind of fulfillment. Sow with love, and let God handle the harvest.

26. Everything happens for a reason and happens in God’s timing.

This is the heartbeat of providence. I’ve seen delays that later made perfect sense, and losses that paved the way for better blessings. Every moment, the joyful, the painful, the quiet, is held in divine hands. Trust the process. God’s timing is always intentional, never random, and always right on time.

Final Thoughts: Walking in Providence...

This manifesto isn’t just a list; it’s a lifestyle. It’s how I align myself with grace, pursue purpose, and honor the God who orchestrates it all. Each phrase is a thread in the larger tapestry of my life, shaped by faith, resilience, creativity, and divine timing. May these words spark something in you, a reminder that your life is divinely timed and deeply meaningful. Living boldly, trusting the journey, believing that God is guiding your way!